Wedding Season--Coming Soon!

I really should keep a tally of how many of my friends are engaged. It's incredible. There must be something in the air, I mean, something besides pollen. Either that or it's the pollen from the wedding tree. (I don't think that's a real thing.)


...Just Googled it. It's a real thing. What is this world coming to!?

Last week I received my first wedding invitation in the mail since returning home. And BOY OH BOY, I can't believe it--I mean, I dated this guy and now.... *shudder*

Now, before you get the wrong idea, I had better clarify. I am all for marriage and weddings. (I mean, I've only been planning mine since I was five...) BUT I find it astonishing just how quickly my social circle is approaching nuptials.

Now, for the fun part:

My sister shared this video with me yesterday. I thought it was just too funny to not share.

With the wedding season approaching quickly, I will give you some famous words of advice: May the odds be ever in your favor.


-Lady L.

Which Suitor is Suitable?

Some self-talk from Lady L.
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

The pressure is on.

Now that Lady L. has returned from her arduous journey, everyone asks "what's next?"

That is the question.

Well, let me tell you. I'm working on it! Life just comes at you, and you have to deal with it. Since returning from my journey, I have been  on a few dates with a few different men. And, like any normal nice lady, I see good in all the young men. The problem is, I'm not planning on splitting my heart that many times. (No Voldemort-horcrux action going on here today!)

After Friday night's dinner, my date and I had a discussion about where the relationship was going. And I honestly didn't have an answer for him. I told him I would think and pray about it and get back to him.

So here's the question. How do I pick which suitor suits me best? None of them are perfect, I know that. I don't expect it. Yet, I feel that they each have individual value to me. I obviously can't date them all.

Sometimes I wish my life were like a fairy tale--when the princess has multiple suitors, the king just sends the suitors on a quest, some sort of challenge to prove their worthiness. The victor then wins the princess as his prize. Voila! The suitor and the princess are married. Whether he is a kind and impressive prince from a faraway kingdom, or an underdog peasant with excellent wit and determination, the princess and her love are united. And they both live happily ever after.

Unfortunately life doesn't work that way. This Lady's father wouldn't set up a quest like that, and she probably wouldn't like whoever won the contest anyway.



The key lies in one (sometimes frustrating) principle: agency.

Ladies need to decide what they want for their lives! Create a vision. Set goals. Develop talents and gifts. Find what makes you happy--then do it! As ladies do this they should consider what kind of man would fit into the life/lifestyle they have envisioned. Then, they should choose accordingly.

Simple enough, right?

It is, but putting it into practice can be difficult--especially when emotional attachments form.

Good luck, Lady!

Sincerely,


Lady L.




Photo credit: Google

The Lady Returns After a Lengthy Journey

"Every object in the next ... journey was new and interesting to [Lady Like] and her spirits were in a state of enjoyment; for [life was] looking so well as to banish all fear for her [future], and the prospect of her [new adventures] was a constant source of delight."-Pride and Prejudice, Chapter 28

Life is full of wonderful surprises. One of mine came in the form of an opportunity to go on a lengthy journey to share the richest parts of my life with others in another part of the country. These past months were full of sharing ideas, experiences, stories, feelings, love, impressions, knowledge, self,  and learning much more. I have grown in ways I cannot explain. 

And now I am back. With the hem of my "petticoat, six inches deep in mud, I am absolutely certain."-Pride and Prejudice

What does that mean, exactly? It means the writing can recommence! This lady is a different lady now! With a new perspective and an entirely new living situation. I am no longer parading around the courts of a university campus, but have entered the realm of ...the unknown! New spheres of sociability, new men, new challenges, new everything!  

I hope you'll join me for my new adventure. 

Image credit: All Posters