You Don't Want to Date Yourself

A lady likes it when a man is interested in what she likes. He doesn't have to love it too, but when she's talking about her interests--he listens, asks questions, and appreciates.

On a recent date a fella and I were chatting over some ice cream. At some point in the conversation he said something like: "we really don't have any common interests." Then he proceeded to explain the difference: he likes golf, watching sports on TV, and science; I like reading and making music and art and cooking and painting and writing and hiking and a lot of things.

I was thinking "Whoa there, we should have differences."

Can you imagine what it would be like to date someone exactly like you? You'd be finishing each other's sentences left and right, not to mention the fact that they'd be using up all your best jokes. You know it would get tedious. Men and women were meant to be different from one another. People were meant to be different from one another. THANK GOODNESS.

Yes, it is important that you have common interests--it's nice to have things you can enjoy talking about and doing together, but not all your interests need to be the same.

Profound, I know. :)

There will be differences. When you find out your date has an affinity for fly fishing or bingo or yoga or Swedish opera or ... heaven forbid... extreme ironing (it's a real thing!), embrace it as one of your differences. Who knows?! you might pick up a new hobby or interest by spending time with that person. You may be surprised and find out you like doing something unusual because  you're with that person.

Haha, I'm rambling again.

-LadyLike

P.S. Don't try this at home.